How to deal with your children

1- permanent consultation between the parents and their agreement on a unified plan:
Both the father and mother should analyze from here and there, the educational methods that have achieved great success in the establishment of building a generation, and they must commit themselves to permanent dialogue on all forms of education, and discuss the advantages and the disadvantages, the extent of its relevance to their environment, determine priorities, and planning for all means and possibilities that can help them to deepen this principle, and the educational guide that are beneficial for their children’s best.
For example, if we educate our children to be respectful, obedient, collaborative, loving, and a sense of responsibility. We must commit ourselves to a successful method that can suit our environment and our religion to consolidate these things in the hearts of our children, with the unity of the word father and mother.
2 - Broadcast an atmosphere of love in the house:
Love is an essential nourishment, which contributes to the development of children's healthy development and constructive psychologically and socially.
Therefore, there should be a need for both parents to work hard to reach that feeling of love for their young children in all possible ways; such as kissing, smiling to them and patting their heads, your children will always feel that their parents provided them all the love, and they can never be detested by their own parents.
This does not prevent punishment of their mistake, and anger at their disposal in ways of inappropriate, but the punishment and anger must go hand in hand with clarifying the reason for the punishment to bear fruit; the reason is to take your children to the highest levels and rid them of all the mistakes possible; and motivate them to do virtuous acts, but with lasting love.
And love not only towards the children; but also between the parents themselves;
Your children will never absorb the feeling of love unless they taste the sweetness of the feeling between their parents.
Here we call on parents to limit their discussions and their critical arguments between the walls of the bedroom; where the listener can listen to their anger, such a way can reflect negatively on your children’s behavior. Love breeds love, and parents keen to bequeath their children they must have to love each other before; And remember: He who misses something does not give anything.
3 – Giving direct responsibility to the mother:
The fact that the mother of all moral and physical components able to be patient and give love and affection with no limits to her children, and being a likeness of which devotes the most of her time with her children more often than the father; it is so important to give the mother a direct responsibility for the raising of her children. Here we say: agreed the direct responsibility is not the sole responsibility; mother and father are partners in responsibilities, But the father is often absent in his work throughout the day and cannot be installed for this task.
He was responsible for the upbringing of his children without a doubt, but he has to endorse the fact that his wife has direct responsibility for them, and if a child wants anything he has to go to his mother who is always present before his eyes. But if the matter is so complicated and the mother cannot give the child any direct answer upon the issue its important to raise the subject to the other parent:(Father) and the matter should be discussed by both parents, at this point your child will learn the importance of both parent’s agreement and patience to wait.
The parents may agree to this policy with each other to avoid any possible disagreement between the parents; children always try to circumvent when their mothers refuse to respond to their desires, choosing instead the father to give them the green light. In this case, the father must frustrate their plan by saying: Did your mother know about this?
However, with the advanced age of the children and their entry age levels to adolescence for example; have things get out the control of the mother, especially with the teenage daughter and stubborn son, in this circumstance the mother needs more secure and strong support from the father, and he has to show the children the importance of the everlasting friend who is always kind and special to our hearts, by reminding them some of her prestige and special love for them.
4 - To stimulate the senses and mental development in the first years of the children’s life:
Senses is the grace of God to us when we come to this world, awareness, and fighting to learn new things is the first thing that everybody should start.
Therefore to grow the senses and the activeness of the child is very important especially in the first age of the child; This period is the best time to develop those senses.
For example, the eye is to distinguish colors of this world and its various forms, and the ear to start differentiating between the sounds of people and to identify the animal sounds; as well as the features of the cosmic sounds around us; such as the sound of water, thunder... Etc..
As well as the senses of touch, taste, and smell, the parents should motivate and strengthen their children and make them able to distinguish between non-homologs.
The imagination of the child must be noble and assistance to become spacious and fertile to the whole world.
One means of stimulation and activation of these senses is to take children to the gardens, full of joy, which can activate the sense of sight and containing various colors; to stimulate children's ability to discriminate between colors and various objects.
You cannot also deny the importance of children's games, models and toys ... And others, which stimulate the senses of sight, touch, memory, and analysis; especially between the ages of one and a half up to five years.
It is incumbent upon parents planning to buy a game that is occupied with certain educational goals along with entertainment; as there no need for further expenditure on games which are no avail for the children.
The parents should at least try joining the play of the game for the first time before the kids start playing on their own afterward.
The parents have to unleash the imagination of their children to grow on a wider face, by telling them interesting stories and making them imagine events, another way is to play your children with behavioral games such as the mother and the child, or the patient and the doctor, or the guest and the host, such games may give the child important techniques and imagination to do his best,
You can take them, special places for children called (cities of fiction); where they find lacy dresses that turn them into leaders and senior students.
And begin to weave fiction and representation and to live with it, along with many other tools and techniques that allow them to develop a sense of imagination.
All of this will develop their imagination, which leads them slowly to creativity and excellence.
5 - Teach your children basic things before they enter school:
House is the foundation of a child's upbringing, education, evaluation, and from it is the start of a quality education and good morals, basic information and virtuous behavior;
Between its walls has the child's personality in all his dimensions and consolidated the foundations of his construction, while the school comes as a complement to this building and engrained it.
It is one of the best ideas to teach your children the basics before school, such as colors, shapes, and some of the names, as well as some of the behaviors: such as respect for the great, and sympathy for the small, keep clean by throwing waste in the trash, not on earth ... Etc..
6 – Increase the children’s education and their treatment
The parents should carefully switch one way to another to keep their children on a very high level and have the patience to settle a very long and strategic style to make their children well-mannered. Setting goals for children and managing them gently can bring positive in both education and social. Give your child every stage its own right.
We should not punish children's behavior if it is wrong before we try them leniency and kindness and praise their correct behavior by the rewards and incentives for the occasion. If not then it can resort to the alert in a gentle way, But if things don’t change appropriate punishments are ok with a discussion of its causes and demonstrate its necessity. Care should be packaged when punishment;
If the decided child to be punished for example is the son, depriving him of watching the animation for a day is equally enough, children should always accept the penalty imposed; And avoid imposition of sanctions with the non-compliance because it is losing the punishment’s objective, and the child will return to repeat the same mistake underestimating the decisions of the parents.
7 - Taking into account individual differences among children: every child has a unique and distinctive character that does not resemble the others personality, so you should diversify the teaching methods with your children; What is more effective with one could fail with the other. There are children’s admonitions that last a look, while others need the words of a firm, there are also ones who need more harsh punishment to refrain. Therefore it is incumbent on all of the parents to identify the characteristics and personalities of their children to deal with each of them to suit the personality and intellect.